I’ll give you some philosophy about how
to stay positive at work. But I’ll also give you a 5-day experiment that you
can try. What? You have a job? I emphasize that right up front because there are so
many people who don’t. That’s really a first step to being positive at work is
realizing that you’ve got work. How cool and amazing is that? Focus on that
abundance and that’s going to change some things as we start into a 5-day
experiment. When I say experiment, I mean let’s try this and see what happens.
Pay attention to what changes inside of you and what changes you see in everyone
around you because some of us don’t have very positive places to work. And you
know what I’m talking about because you’re watching this video. So, here’s
your 5-day experiment. Day one is the gratitude-focus day. So, on the first day…
And maybe this starts today or maybe it starts tomorrow. Your next full day at
work, whenever that is. The gratitude- focus day. Look for things in your work
environment the way it is right now without changing anything for which you
are sincerely grateful. Find it. Ask your mind to look for the things that are
already there that you’re grateful for. Now, this might be as simple as “I love
the location.” If you’re grateful for that. It might be a particular person in your
work space that you’re grateful for and that you have a relationship with by
virtue of being employed there. It might be that you actually get a paycheck to
show up at this job. Whatever it is but make a list. And I would encourage you to
go big here. What if you can come up with 25 things during the course of that
gratitude-focus day for which you are sincerely grateful. You might have to
look hard to get to 25. This is a power way to change your own focus and it’s
going to power you up for some of the other experiments that we’re going to do.
Let’s move on to day 2. Day 2 in our five-day experiment is the smiling day.
This one is actually kind of fun because people get a little nervous when you
show up a new smile. There’s a couple of ways to do this. First I want you to
notice what is the natural resting state of your face? Notice what it’s doing
right now for example. Where are your eyebrows? Are they kind of scrunchie like
this? Do you hold kind of a tense face? Start by relaxing. So, just loosen up your
forehead around your eyes and through your cheek bones down in your chin. Just
relax for a moment. And notice that it wasn’t very relaxed before if that’s the
case. Now, what if you were to just bring a smile to your face? Okay. So, the
experiment is this: You’re going to smile as naturally and as genuinely as you can
in 5 different settings today where it could be noticed by other people. One
of those settings might be as you enter the office or your place of employment.
You come in smiling. And people are going to wonder what you’re up to or what. And I
get this all the time. People… Because I naturally smile a lot. I’ll be out
driving and people will wave at me Because they think I’m smiling at them.
Well I’ve just trained myself through positivity training and practice. To
smile a lot. And it makes people nervous which is kind of fun for me. Well, you’re
gonna try this as an experiment at work. So, it might be a lunch time or as you’re
having a meeting with some other co-workers. And they’re going to wonder what
you’re up to. What you know that they don’t know. That’s fine. Just let them
experience it however they are. This is an experience for you and just jot down
maybe journal each day or keep notes in your phone about what you notice in this
5-day experiment. Day 2, the smiling day. Day number 3
in our experiment is the “I’m on it” day. You’re going to use this phrase at least
3 times today in a setting that’s not normally your job or your
responsibility. Now, you can say it actually voice the words –“I’m on it”. Let’s
say for example that somebody comes into the office. And your job is in this
particular area not the parking lot. But somebody comes in and says, “Man, there’s a
lot of trash out there in that parking lot.” You’re going to say, “I’m on it.” And
you’re going to pick up a bag from back in the office somewhere. You’re going to take
it out to the parking lot and you’re gonna start picking up trash. Well is
that your job? No. But “I’m on it”, okay? Let’s say that there’s something on
the floor in the office. Same kind of thing. Let’s say that a
shipment comes in that needs to be moved from this room to that room or needs to
be received and it’s normally not your job. But you say “I’m on it”. I have a
colleague who tells a story about a 16 year old kid who did this in a tire
store where he was working at the bottom of the ladder. He was doing all the grunt
work around the shop. But he had this attitude –“I’m on it”. And he’d say it with
a smile. Remember, we practiced that yesterday. Say it with a smile and then
follow through and do it. This shows initiative and it changes the energy
around your job. I want you to do this as an experiment because you’re going to see
how you feel and you’re going to see what the impact is. 3 times, “I’m on it” with
something that’s not normally your job or responsibility, got it?
Day 4 in our 5-day experiment is the “You know the thing I love about this
job is…” You’re gonna use that phrase out loud with two of your coworkers.
Sometime during day 4. So, it comes up in conversation or you intentionally
bring it up. “You know, the thing I love about this job is and then
you complete that sentence with something that is real and genuine.” Go
back to the gratitude day if you need to find something. But it has to be real and
genuine. Not sarcastic. That would spoil it. I want you to be real and genuine
about this. And share that with 2 of your co-workers sometime during day 4
to see what happens. Day 5 is going to be a lot of fun. This is the “it’s not
about me” day. Shift your focus for the entire day to the experience of others.
Whether they’re your co-workers or your clients or customers or vendors. Whoever
it is. Shift your focus to them. How they feel about themselves. What their
experience is today. Now, I said shift your focus. This is
going to shift your behavior too. But I just want your focus to get off of you
for a full day. And you’re thinking about other people. So, as you come into the
office and you think, “Oh, I don’t really like this.” Okay, we’ve already violated it.
I don’t like this space? Who’s the focus on? You and how you don’t like this space.
Shift it to someone else, okay? Forget about the fact that you don’t like the
space. How’s this space working for your coworkers?
Who is it that selected this space in the first place and why? See. you’re
getting it. It’s not about you. Forget about you for a minute. For a day
actually. This is a powerful way to increase your own positivity. And I think
you’re going to notice some things on day 5 that could profoundly affect your
ability to stay positive at work. We did another video not too long ago called
“How to stay positive when you hate your job.” That might be a good one to watch
next. And I also want to connect you as soon as possible to pathological
positivity. I’m giving this away. You just pay for the shipping.
Go to DrPaulJenkins.com. Click the big orange button that connects you to
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